Beware having to be placed on supervised visitation; it is very expensive, it's difficult to get into an agency, and even if you get into the agency, it's still fairly expensive.
Having a third party which or who is not an agency supervisor is a good alternative. Preferably not someone who hates you?
Attorney is seeing many cases where everyone thinks the parent should be supervised. Unfortunately, what usually happens is that it becomes a show and tell episode of fault finding. Attorney has seen this pattern relentlessly. The goal of supervised visits is to improve the parent, not make him/her worse. While no one is perfect, observation in public places of one who is watching their own kid will be skewed by each party because they are critical of each other to begin with.
That is why a supervisor who is objective, not subjective, will not necessarily try and take sides.
In all fairness we would like kids to have good parents with some skills. Many parents lack these
skills and will need to complete parenting classes. Some parents never learn--and that is not uncommon. Some parents do improve. Some just continue to fight as to how to raise the kids.
Attorney knows that people can change, but it basically should be done willingly. Unwillingly
usually causes more problems in long run. After having observed many cases with kids, attorney
realizes that if the kids are resilient, and most are, they can do better down the road when they get
older. If they have already sustained too much emotional garbage they can still change but will have
to work on it. Repeated patterns in psychology tend to indicate there are a ton of things that can be
improved, but they take time.
Having a third party which or who is not an agency supervisor is a good alternative. Preferably not someone who hates you?
Attorney is seeing many cases where everyone thinks the parent should be supervised. Unfortunately, what usually happens is that it becomes a show and tell episode of fault finding. Attorney has seen this pattern relentlessly. The goal of supervised visits is to improve the parent, not make him/her worse. While no one is perfect, observation in public places of one who is watching their own kid will be skewed by each party because they are critical of each other to begin with.
That is why a supervisor who is objective, not subjective, will not necessarily try and take sides.
In all fairness we would like kids to have good parents with some skills. Many parents lack these
skills and will need to complete parenting classes. Some parents never learn--and that is not uncommon. Some parents do improve. Some just continue to fight as to how to raise the kids.
Attorney knows that people can change, but it basically should be done willingly. Unwillingly
usually causes more problems in long run. After having observed many cases with kids, attorney
realizes that if the kids are resilient, and most are, they can do better down the road when they get
older. If they have already sustained too much emotional garbage they can still change but will have
to work on it. Repeated patterns in psychology tend to indicate there are a ton of things that can be
improved, but they take time.